I am surrounded by bachelors and bachelorettes in my family, who are ready to dive into the marital world or are not ready, but we are ready to push them into it.lol !! Family gatherings often turn into battlegrounds where the seasoned bachelor and bachelorettes are roasted mercilessly.
I got married 6 years back, and it never felt this complicated, maybe I just got lucky, I mean my husband got lucky. obviously!
The most dramatic question “How do I decide he/she is the one?” the millennial kids sure are having a tough time finding their soulmates.
I have been asked this question quite a few times “How did I decide that this guy(now husband) is right for me?”, especially when it was an arranged marriage setting, and we were complete strangers.
The quest for ‘The One’
For millennials, the quest for true love is like embarking on a crazy journey. The hearts are set on finding “The One” and are not about to settle for anything less. But I have observed what we fail to understand is we don’t have to find the perfect one, we must find someone who is perfect for us. Confused?!! The endless checkbox list is to blame I feel. The partner should be from the same city or should be from the same field of work and so on. While these factors are important but shouldn’t be the deciding ones.
We don’t live in an era in which going somewhere takes days and days, and technology has ensured we are well connected. And instead of matching careers or religion, a matching mindset is more important for a happy married life.
Questions to ask your future partner
- Tell me something about your family.
- What are your expectations from my family, and how do you see our families interacting?
- Are there any religious or spiritual beliefs that are significant to you?
- How do you prefer to communicate in a relationship, especially when disagreements arise?
- How do you envision your ideal married life?
- Do you want to have children, and if so, how many and when?
- Are there any financial expectations or concerns you would like to discuss?
- What kind of wedding you want?
These are a few of the questions that are like the building blocks for grasping how someone ticks, their life philosophy, and all the important stuff you need to know when picking a life partner in an arranged marriage. They’re the keys to unveiling the must-know factors. Plus, they can get those tricky conversations rolling, and when you deal with them honestly, they can save you from headaches down the road. When both partners engage in these discussions honestly and openly, they lay the groundwork for a marriage that can weather the storms and bring joy and fulfilment for years to come.
Love and ice-creams
Sneha Singhvi